Although I don’t often complain today is an exception. However, for every complaint I explain the reasoning behind my frustration AND I offer a solution.
So here it goes…
1. The first complaint has to do with those who sign me as a member of a Facebook Group without my permission. This trend seems to be on the up-rise, not just for me but for many people I know.
I’m not even sure how a group owner can sign someone up without their knowledge, nor do I care to because I certainly won’t register someone to one of my groups without their knowledge and permission.
For whatever reason there are group owners who think we will appreciate becoming a member of their group without so much as asking us if this is what we want. I don’t care how good the cause or theme of the group, if you are doing this to others, you need to stop because most everyone I know does not appreciate this. I sure don’t.
Now mind you, I am a member of several groups in the various social networks I belong to but I made the choice to join out of a particular interest not because someone else joined me without my permission.
With the amount of information overload we are all on it’s common courtesy to invite someone first. Simple as that.
Solution: Take a few minutes to invite someone to join your group and convey benefits for them. However, don’t be offended if they don’t accept.
2. My next complaint… a so-called expert claiming they can teach me something when they have never achieved that something.
I’m not talking about someone referring the expertise of someone else. I’m talking about those people who claim they are an expert at something when in fact, they have not yet accomplished the very thing they are either trying to teach you or sell you their own program on. Aghhhh!
Whether it be health and nutrition, marketing, leadership, making money, having great relationships, or whatever; walk the walk before you talk the talk.
Amazingly there are those who claim if they have not succeeded at something they can teach you what not to do. Take a relationship expert. Dang, why would I want to learn how to have a long term, loving, joyful, abundant and giving relationship from someone who has never gone past a year or two in a relationship?
Call me old fashioned, but I want to learn from someone who knows how to make things work based on real life experience and a proven track record.
Solution: Before you believe everything someone says, check them out. You may be pleasantly surprised that they are even more accomplished than you originally thought. Or you may be surprised that what they claim they can teach is nothing they have ever accomplished.
On the flip side, before you claim you are an expert at something you better be darned sure you can back up your claims. For example, I have a teleseminar I am offering at no cost that I am more than qualified to teach. Two years ago I could not make this claim. To see what program I am referring to click here.
There are lots of qualified experts in countless markets that can back up their claims. Are you one of them?
3. Complaint #3 … the misguided teachings that all you have to do is visualize what you want and it will appear with no effort whatsoever. To this I say, “Get a life!”
Now that may seem harsh but the fact is there are a lot of people who seem to think they don’t have to work for what they want. Where this all started is beyond me yet, there are countless people who are perpetrating this lie.
Talk to some of the so called experts who are touting the bill of goods that you simply have to visualize what you want and it will appear at your doorstep are causing more harm than good.
Do you have to visualize what you want? Absolutely! But there is to any type of success than this.
With the visualization comes action. Depending how much success you want determines the level of action. This doesn’t mean you have to run yourself into the ground. It does mean you have to have a plan and you have to work the plan.
I know there will be some people who don’t want to hear this truth. They would prefer sit back and simply “attract” everything to themselves.
Attraction is all part of it, but far too many people have been led to believe attraction doesn’t take any work at all. Notice what is right in the word attraction.
To achieve the level of success you desire you need to believe you can achieve it, visualize what you want, know there are elements of attraction in the process, develop a plan, work the plan, adjust as needed, surround yourself with the right support system and circle of influence and be willing to adjust as needed.
Want to find out how to do anything? Find someone who has “been there, done that” and find out what they really had to do. Chances are it was a heck of a lot more than simply visualizing the outcome.
Solution: Like my mamma always said, “Anything worth having is worth working for.” This doesn’t mean work is not fun. Actually, work can be lots of fun. Especially when you see the results of your efforts. Now that’s lots of fun.
Okay, that’s it for my 3 frustrations. What are some of yours? Leave your comments by clicking the link at the top of this post. Be sure to add in the solution too.